“You begin to fly when you let go of self-limiting beliefs and allow your mind and aspirations to rise to greater heights.”
Brian Tracy
How do you change a limiting BELIEF?
Watch this super easy to understand video and below you have the text version.
You can change a belief by reading a book or attending an event or working with a coach. And, after some time, you will definitely have a BREAKTHROUGH. Even better said, a new connection is created in your brain.
Some believe that is enough. But is it?
The truth is that you are just getting started. Let me explain. In order to experience real, long-lasting change, you need to put in the work. Having a breakthrough is not enough nor does it equal long-lasting change. It’s only the FIRST step!
I remember that I once read something Louise Hay said:
“If you accept a limiting belief, then it will become a truth for you”.
I like to compare it with taking a different road home. If you take the same road home for ten years, you don’t think about it while driving, do you? It becomes your truth.
See also: Stop The BreakThroughs Crap & Understand How Change Really Works!
But if you were to take a different one, you will have to make an EFFORT, right? And not just the first time, but maybe a couple of times (possibly even hundred of times!), until you don’t have to consciously THINK which way you should take to get home. It becomes your second nature. And if you take this NEW road enough times, you will start to forget the OLD one.
“The key to optimum health is to upgrade these unconscious maps and limiting beliefs that have been driving us to a toxic lifestyle and relationships.” (Alberto Villoldo)
It’s the same with beliefs. You need to CONSCIOUSLY think different until it becomes so normal that you hardly have the old belief anymore. But (and there is a big “BUT” coming), you need to allow yourself some TIME. And not just that, you also have to be patient with yourself and love yourself. Whenever you catch yourself using the old belief and accept that it is NORMAL, it’s okay!
“You have the power in the present moment to change limiting beliefs and consciously plant the seeds for the future of your choosing. As you change your mind, you change your experience.” (Serge King)
So, without any judgment, you should patiently begin on working to change your subconscious ideas and limiting beliefs into “real expressions of your authentic self”. This is an idea I got from Sue Thoele.
This is the HEALTHY way of changing a belief.
Remember to always LOVE yourself!
Very true Mihai, and I like the metaphor of the different route home. Tempting to strive for those silver-bullet, eureka moment, magic solution breakthroughs when trying to change your life, but even if they come they don’t last unless you build upon the foundation they have created for you. From that first step must come the 10,000 more before you’re truly on your way.
If you don’t mind me asking, do you have a personal example of a limiting belief once held which you struggled to change initially but which has eventually improved your life after consciously applying the effort to change it?
So happy that you were inspired by the metaphor, Will! That’s a great question actually! Especially in the past 18 months, I’ve changed so many beliefs, but the beliefs that probably played the biggest part in my life were that:
– “I am not a good writer” – got me stuck for about two years
– “I could never be a coach” – well, look at me :))
– “I am not a creative person” – now it’s the most pleasurable thing I do: to create.
It was a lot of work, but it’s possible and because of these few beliefs, my life has changed completely. Thanks for the comment Will! 😀